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Unlike men, they don’t have to develop the rest of their personality in order to get respect, attention, affection, etc.
It leads to attractive women having a self-perception that they are superior to most people, as long as they have the looks. So they can treat most people as if those people were inferior. Especially men who ass-kiss, who come across as needy and uncool, and believe it or not, also come across as manipulative. (You see, womanizers don’t come across as manipulative, since they hide their agenda better. Nice guys are obvious- “Hey I like you, do you like me?”) This is why being a “nice guy” is disastrous. Most attractive women simply do not appreciate “nice-ness” since WOMEN think that if you would be as superior as they are, you would then not be nice. |
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Emulate the masters: James Dean, Sean Connery, Cary Grant, John Wayne, Clint Eastwood, etc. These guys were a bit sexist in their day, but they displayed the stoic example of male posture: Their personas said they didn't give a damn if the woman they were with wanted them or not, and that is why they were admired by men and women alike.
But keep in mind that posture is not just a hardened visage of manliness. To the contrary, your ability to remain vulnerable and flexible is essential to success. The man that is rigid and unbending will break (as the Taoist saying about the reed in the wind.) Balance your firmness with a measure of emotional warmth. |
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So what does a *boring* guy act like?
Well, for starters he acts like he's NOT COMFORTABLE in the situation... Nervous smiles. Apologizing. Agreeing with her opinions all the time. Asking her what she'd like to do. Holding your body in an unsure, insecure way. That's a good start. Mix in a few uncomfortable silences and you've got the makings for her running as fast as she can and changing her phone number to save herself from another one of your boring calls! So what's the answer? What's the secret to making her feel attracted to you, and not BORED OUT OF HER SKULL? I thought you'd never ask. Here are a few ideas for starters: 1. Take her somewhere that has a lot going on... somewhere that has interesting conversation built in. I like funky areas that have lots of eclectic, artsy, trendy shops. You can't walk through one of these areas without having an interesting conversation. There are all kinds of interesting things from tattoo artists to funky hat shops to ultra-trendy clothing stores. Most cities have an area like this, and I'd suggest you go check it out. |
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